Good evening friends.
I just want to express myself. I want to say things coming from some deep areas of my heart. I often tell people, there are things you may never know about even your spouse until the Judgement Day. I try to live my life such that at least my wife is not shocked at any revelation on the Last Day. It is hard but it's my personal target.
Let me talk about my wife today please.
I married a very real girl. She is not artificial in any way. Laughs. That was one major plus she had with me. I remember in school then when she invited me over for dinner, her stew smelled and tasted so raw I wondered why she would not even put spices. Her food always tasted fresh and very different from everyone else. She would tell me she loved to eat her meal as natural as possible. I also noticed she hardly made up her faces. You see, she was just what she was - no hidden charges. What you see is what you get. Anyway I know some will interpret that to mean she could not cook. Laughs. Please come and taste the goodness of God.
Did I ever tell you she was a virgin? Oh dear. I should not be saying stuff like this on the web. I just hope she was not the last virgin that married. I remember her mum asking me ... (You see now. I showed her this just before I posted it and she said I should remove this paragraph. She said my write ups are too detailed. She is right maybe. What do I do now? Well I removed the aspects she pointed out. Simple )
Let us go on.
But here was I at that time. Rotten.
Let me not unleash dragons here. When I met Christ I used to evangelise with my testimony a lot. Deji called me one day and told me 'Enough Deolu we are tired of hearing it'. But here was I about to marry a saint. I had become saved but I still felt she should know where I was coming from. I remember the day I told her stuff, I was in tears and on my knees. Laughs. You see, I tell my story a lot. Forgive me. I ended the 'Confessions' with these words 'Dear, even if you refuse to marry me now I feel I have done the right thing'. She told me to stand up. She said 'Thank God there is no permanent damage. It would have been tough to decide. I will still marry you dear'. And that was it. She has never - it is five years, people- she has never mentioned anything from my past to taunt me. Not once.
We must develop hearts large enough to accomodate other people's burden. We must destroy the software that generates condemnation when we hear little of their stories. We must believe that the blood of Jesus can wash the dirtiest life. We must encourage them to relieve themselves of the filth they try to wrap away under their makeups. We must increase our shock absorbers when we have their information. And we must stop using their stories as parables during our sermons - until at least they are healed.
Fiancees should tell it all. Likewise fiances. Husbands should tell it all to their wives. And vice versa too. This is the way to face Judgement without guilt. Right in the mouth of that believer spouse of yours is the power to forgive. Hear what Jesus said;
[NIV] John 20:22 - 23: And with that he breathed on them and said, “Receive the Holy Spirit.
If you forgive anyone’s sins, their sins are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.”
Blessed is the wife (husband) whose sins the husband (wife) has forgiven.
Amen.
I just want to express myself. I want to say things coming from some deep areas of my heart. I often tell people, there are things you may never know about even your spouse until the Judgement Day. I try to live my life such that at least my wife is not shocked at any revelation on the Last Day. It is hard but it's my personal target.
Let me talk about my wife today please.
I married a very real girl. She is not artificial in any way. Laughs. That was one major plus she had with me. I remember in school then when she invited me over for dinner, her stew smelled and tasted so raw I wondered why she would not even put spices. Her food always tasted fresh and very different from everyone else. She would tell me she loved to eat her meal as natural as possible. I also noticed she hardly made up her faces. You see, she was just what she was - no hidden charges. What you see is what you get. Anyway I know some will interpret that to mean she could not cook. Laughs. Please come and taste the goodness of God.
Did I ever tell you she was a virgin? Oh dear. I should not be saying stuff like this on the web. I just hope she was not the last virgin that married. I remember her mum asking me ... (You see now. I showed her this just before I posted it and she said I should remove this paragraph. She said my write ups are too detailed. She is right maybe. What do I do now? Well I removed the aspects she pointed out. Simple )
Let us go on.
But here was I at that time. Rotten.
Let me not unleash dragons here. When I met Christ I used to evangelise with my testimony a lot. Deji called me one day and told me 'Enough Deolu we are tired of hearing it'. But here was I about to marry a saint. I had become saved but I still felt she should know where I was coming from. I remember the day I told her stuff, I was in tears and on my knees. Laughs. You see, I tell my story a lot. Forgive me. I ended the 'Confessions' with these words 'Dear, even if you refuse to marry me now I feel I have done the right thing'. She told me to stand up. She said 'Thank God there is no permanent damage. It would have been tough to decide. I will still marry you dear'. And that was it. She has never - it is five years, people- she has never mentioned anything from my past to taunt me. Not once.
We must develop hearts large enough to accomodate other people's burden. We must destroy the software that generates condemnation when we hear little of their stories. We must believe that the blood of Jesus can wash the dirtiest life. We must encourage them to relieve themselves of the filth they try to wrap away under their makeups. We must increase our shock absorbers when we have their information. And we must stop using their stories as parables during our sermons - until at least they are healed.
Fiancees should tell it all. Likewise fiances. Husbands should tell it all to their wives. And vice versa too. This is the way to face Judgement without guilt. Right in the mouth of that believer spouse of yours is the power to forgive. Hear what Jesus said;
[NIV] John 20:22 - 23: And with that he breathed on them and said, “Receive the Holy Spirit.
If you forgive anyone’s sins, their sins are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.”
Blessed is the wife (husband) whose sins the husband (wife) has forgiven.
Amen.
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